It’s the question that will haunt us until the day we die: Should we stay friends with an ex? The answer to that should be an emphatic "no."
A new study shows people with “dark personality traits” keep their exes around for "practical" reasons. This could mean that you weren’t wrong that time you called your ex a narcissistic psychopath.
The results revealed, unsurprisingly, that highly ranking a practical reason for remaining friends with an ex predicted a clinical assessment of narcissism or psychopathy.
Basically, the study says that if your ex wants to keep you around after you break up, and they have "dark personality traits," they likely want to use you for something.
"Narcissists hate to fail or lose, so they will do what they can to maintain some connection if they didn't make the choice to end it," narcissism expert Dr. Tony Ferretti said. "They can experience narcissistic injury when rejected by a partner and have difficulties letting it go or healing from it."
“Exes are less emotionally supportive, less helpful, less trusting, and less concerned about the other person’s happiness,” Juliana Breines, a social experience researcher and postdoctoral fellow at Brandeis University, wrote in a Psychology Today blog. “This is especially true, not surprisingly, for former partners who were dissatisfied with the romantic relationship and in cases when the break-up was not mutual. And all exes are terrible people only using you for their pleasure. ”
So, it’s not a bad idea to proceed with caution when it comes to an ex.