For boys, or men, being aggressive and assertive are positive attributes. They are considered self-assured and confident; however, the moment a woman asserts herself, she is labeled bossy.
It just goes to show how we humans stereotype in the worst possible way without even thinking. While it may seem like no big deal, this can severely limit the psyche of men and women.
Facebook COO Sheryl Sandberghas written about just that in her book, Lean In. She is not only against the word bossy, she wants to ban it. The thought has quickly turned into a campaign with many prominent personalities promoting the concept.
While girls are no longer being told to speak when spoken to in this day and age, they are not exactly encouraged to be openly decisive and assertive.
‘Girls are called bossy four times as much as boys. Similarly, I’ve gone all over the world and I’ve asked people, "Raise your hand if you’ve been told you are too aggressive at work." Less than 5 percent of men raise their hands. I ask women, "Raise your hand if you’ve ever been called bossy at work." Everyone,’ says Sandberg.
So what’s so wrong with the word "bossy"?
The problem is that it typecasts females in a negative light and crushes the confidence of women, thus stopping them from fulfilling their true potential.
Beyonce, a strong believer of the fact that no girl is too confident to be called bossy; has no doubt that her little girl Blue Ivy can be anything she wants to be. "I'm telling my daughter every day 'you know you can be president, you know it's possible' and I know she has no idea why I'm saying that,” the pop star says.
Here’s a video with the likes of Beyonce, Jane Lynch, Jennifer Gardner and former Secretary of State Condoleeza Rice promoting the concept.
“Call a little girl “bossy” and she starts to avoid leadership roles because she’s afraid of being seen as unlikeable. People are already wary of assertive women at work, but call a woman “aggressive” out loud and they will probably like her less. Call a female politician a ballbuster enough times, and people may actually be less likely to vote for her,” writes Jessica Bennet, a journalist and contributing editor for Sandburg’s Lean In Organization.
Frankly speaking, it’s about time confidence in women is not confused with being bossy, especially young girls.
So would you agree that Bossy is the worst ‘B Word’ a girl can be called?