Here’s what the guy wrote:
“Hey Mike! I’ve spent this last year trying to figure out the right career for myself and I still can’t figure out what to do. I have always been a hands on kind of guy and a go-getter. I could never be an office worker. I need change, excitement, and adventure in my life, but where the pay is steady. I grew up in construction and my first job was a restoration project. I love everything outdoors. I play music for extra money. I like trying pretty much everything, but get bored very easily. I want a career that will always keep me happy, but can allow me to have a family and get some time to travel. I figure if anyone knows jobs it’s you so I was wondering your thoughts on this if you ever get the time! Thank you!
- Parker Hall”
Mike started off by giving him advice and sincerely told him to, “Learn to weld and move to North Dakota.” The prominent TV personality proceeded to tell him about an interaction with a woman he recently met. The 40-year-old smart, intelligent and independent woman could not find love. She was at her wit’s end, wondering if everything was going for her, why she found herself alone?
Mike wondered the same and gave her some options in his bid to help. She turned each and every one of them down.
“How about that guy at the end of the bar he keeps looking at you.”
“Not my type.”
“Really? How do you know?”
“I just know.”
“Have you tried a dating site?”.
“Are you kidding? I would never date someone I met online!”
“Alright. How about a change of scene? Your company has offices all over – maybe try living in another city?”
“What? Leave San Francisco? Never!”
“How about the other side of town? You know, mix it up a little. Visit different places. New museums, new bars, new theaters…?”
“Why the hell would I do that?”
So here’s what he summed up.
“Here’s the thing, Parker. Claire doesn’t really want a man. She wants the “right” man. She wants a soul-mate. Specifically, a soul-mate from her zip code. She assembled this guy in her mind years ago, and now, dammit, she’s tired of waiting!!”
His advice was simple:
“Stop looking for the “right” career, and start looking for a job. Any job. Forget about what you like. Focus on what’s available. Get yourself hired. Show up early. Stay late. Volunteer for the scut work. Become indispensable. You can always quit later, and be no worse off than you are today. But don’t waste another year looking for a career that doesn’t exist. And most of all, stop worrying about your happiness. Happiness does not come from a job. It comes from knowing what you truly value, and behaving in a way that’s consistent with those beliefs.
“What you do, who you’re with, and how you feel about the world around you, is completely up to you,” he concluded.
We don’t know how Parker took the advice, but there’s a lesson in it for all of us. Both Parker and the woman seem like a reflection of us.
We toss and turn in bed, thinking of the things we don’t have, and wake up the next morning hoping that lady luck will smile down on us. While this is happening, one has been shunning every opportunity that comes their way.