It’s not just women that suffer through sexual abuse and domestic violence.
If truth be told, it’s been discovered that it’s a little more difficult for men to deal with such problems that are stereotypically associated with females .
It’s because females and not males are generally considered to be the weaker gender. It is a harmful notion that automatically takes away the right from men to be fragile – a natural state that can plague or overcome anyone based on the kind of circumstances an individual may be going through.
Why is a man expected to be the savior and a woman is always the damsel in distress? Why do people use phrases like “man up” and “boys don’t cry”?
Such preconceived notions often make it harder for men to seek counsel when they need it desperately just because they are asked to behave a certain way.
Following are problems commonly associated with women that are an equally disturbing and tormenting experience for men.
It’s not just teenage girls and female celebrities that undergo the pressure of having an “ideal body image”. It’s a problem men face as well.
Men make up about a quarter of eating disorder cases, according to a UK study that was released earlier in April.
Researchers from University of Oxford and University of Glasgow stated that young men with such conditions do not receive the help and support they need because of “perceptions about a women's illness.”
In fact, compared to females, men were found to be under-diagnosed and undertreated for anorexia and other abnormal eating habits.
“As many as 24 million people in the United States suffer from eating disorders out of which males only make up about 10 percent of the anorexia population.”
“However, the percentage is probably as high as 25 percent, due to underreporting and misdiagnosis of the condition in males,” according to Aren Skolnick, D.O. National Association of Anorexia Nervosa and Associated Disorders:
We live in a world where women are considered to be victims and men the victimizers. While there may be nothing wrong with that notion, it’s not entirely true.
“1 in 4 women (24.3%) and 1 in 7 men (13.8%), aged 18 and older in the United States, have been the victims of severe physical violence by an intimate partner in their lifetime,” according to one estimate.
RADAR (Respecting Accuracy in Domestic Abuse Reporting) notes that less than 10% of the United States OVW’s (Office of Violence Against Women) funding is used to help male victims
In the UK, 40 percent of domestic abuse is against men, states ManKind Initiative, a UK-based organization.
The Office For National Statistics (ONS) UK also highlighted violence against men in its recent report, which states that on average, about seven women and two men are killed by their current or former partner every month in England and Wales.
A recent social experiment conducted by ManKind proved how our society lacks awareness and recognition of domestic violence against men. You can watch it here.
A majority of people have this ridiculous notion that boys or men do not get sexually abused or raped. If you are one of them, the following stats will shock you.
“Nearly 1 in 5 women and 1 in 71 men in the United States have been raped. The actual number is likely higher, experts say, as incidents of sexual violence are severely underreported in the United States -- particularly among male victims,” according to a 2010 report by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention,
“An estimated 78,000 people in the UK are victims of rape or attempted rape each year, of which around 9,000 are thought to be men. But sexual crime has a notoriously low report rate, and research suggests that this is particularly true among male victims. In 2011-12, just 1,250 incidents of male rape were reported to the police,” a report stated last year.
Also, a report released in June last year showed that it is actually military men who are the victims in the majority of cases.
In 2012, 26,000 military personnel reported some instance of unwanted sexual contact; 53 percent of those reports were from men.
Analyzing the data mentioned above for each problem, there’s one common conclusion that can be derived. Men face these issues and their suffering becomes worse with time because they cannot talk about or report their ordeal due to certain cultural and social perceptions.
Please, let your boys cry and don’t tell them to man up. It’s what is best for them and for the world in general.