“The only time you really live fully is from thirty to sixty. The young are slaves to dreams; the old servants of regrets. Only the middle-aged have all their five senses in the keeping of their wits,” says American author Hervey Allen.
He is absolutely right. But by the time we hit 30, we start losing our idealism and find ourselves stuck in a rut.
Here are some common thoughts that plague people in their 30s.
Thinking they are too old for something new
You are never too old for anything. Your 30s, like any other decade of your life, is the best time to take chances, do new things, learn and evolve.
Putting their career ahead of personal life
Work is important and by 30 it’s one part of our lives where we find ourselves excelling in. However, by this time we also have the risk of getting caught up in a rat race. Success does not compensate for things that really have value especially friends and family.
"Don't just work. Make memories. The older you get, the harder it is to make meaningful relationships. Foster those while you're young," advices Microsoft product designer Michael Dorian Bach.
Not planning for old age
Retirement and old age may look far off, but time flies and you never know what lies ahead. It’s never too early to plan for the future. As you age and near retirement you realize there isn’t such a thing as enough savings for the golden years.
This involves your health as well. Yes, you are young, active and full of energy, but that doesn’t mean you don’t stock up for tomorrow. Do not put off eating healthy, exercising or even having a good health insurance for a later day. If you are not already at it, there is no better time than now.
Obsessing about a perfect life
There is no such thing. No one but you should be defining milestones for yourself. Do not obsess about things you feel you should have by the time you hit your thirties. Do not miss what you have by running obsessively after things you think you must have. All things come in time if you plan and work for them- just take time to appreciate and enjoy what you already have.
Settling for things
Just because you have hit a certain digit in age doesn’t mean you should settle for thing. Buying a home, getting married or starting a family just because everyone you know had that by the time they were in their 30s, or because you always thought you would before you hit the big 4-0 is just a bad idea.
Moral? Live your life to the fullest, plan, set goals and work for them; but never let age stop or drive you just because of the number it represents.