Guilt, fear, hopelessness, shame, betrayal and anger are the most common emotional responses to sexual assault of any kind, but there is another demon faced by the victims and that is when they have to shoulder the blame.
Some are led to believe that they may have provoked the assailant somehow, perhaps through their attire, behavior or body language.
A Twitter user @steenfox recently started a conversation online with amazing results. She asked her Twitter followers a simple question: What were you wearing when you were assaulted?
What were you wearing when you're assaulted? Let me know if it's ok to RT your response. Thank you in advance for sharing. <3— Adele Dazeem (@steenfox) March 12, 2014
And the responses she got were eye opening. They ranged from pink PJs, hoodies, jeans and tees to business suits.
Here are just a few:
@steenfox pink princess pajamas. I was 6. Ok to RT— Bushido Beige (@PlushGawd) March 13, 2014
@steenfox office work clothes. collard shirt, cardigan, pencil skirt with tights, flats. you can RT.— ana (@mooooody_) March 12, 2014
@steenfox my school clothes. a jacket, screen print shirt, jeans, and snow boots. Okay to RT— Queen (@NayQueenCole) March 12, 2014
@steenfox one-piece bathing suit. I was 17 & a lifeguard. He was a co-worker. It was my 1st job. Ok to RT. thank you for twitterconversation— Mikell Kober (@mikellkober) March 13, 2014
@steenfox pajamas at a sleepover in a room full of girls and an irresponsible mother. I was 16. Ok to RT.— midwestdominicana (@mwdominicana) March 12, 2014
@steenfox 24. t-shirt & panties. at knifepoint in my own home. I said "no" & almost didn't live to see today. (ok to RT)— Bae Cole (@beymagnifique) March 12, 2014
It will probably be a long time till victims are not held guilty for violence committed against them by men on our body, mind, and spirit. These responses show that women become prey to men who exercise their power and it has little to with what they are wearing on that given day.