Ariana Grande: Pop music princess, cat ear aficionado, musical theater superstar, and fearless social media feminist.
Grande, who was recently subject to horribly misogynistic comments by a fan of her rapper boyfriend, Mac Miller, took to Twitter Dec. 27 to describe the scenario, and how she's fighting against the gross sexism.
Her post, which features screenshots of her phone's Notes, reads,
"went to pick up food with my boyfriend tonight and a young boy followed us to the car to tell Mac that he's a big fan.
He was loud and excited and by the time M was seated in the drivers [sic] seat he was literally almost in the car with us. I thought all of this was cute and exciting until he said 'ariana is sexy as hell man i see you, i see you hitting that!!!' *pause*
Hitting that? the f*ck??
This may not seem like a big deal to some of you but I felt sick and objectified. I was also sitting right there when he said it. (?)
I've felt really quiet and hurt since that moment. Things like [sic] happen all the time and are the kinds of moments that contribute to women's sense of fear and inadequacy. I am not a piece of meat that a man gets to utilize for his pleasure. I'm an adult human being in a relationship with a man who treats me with love and respect.
It hurts my heart that so many young people are so comfortable enough using these phrases and objectifying women with such ease.
I felt like speaking out about this one experience tonight because I know very well that most women know the sensation of being spoken about in an uncomfortable way publicly or taken advantage of publicly by a man. We need to talk about these moments openly because they are harmful and they live on inside of us as shame. We need to share and be vocal when something makes us uncomfortable because if we don't, it will just continue. We are not objects or prizes. We are QUEENS."
Grande then posted a series of tweets responding to certain backlash wherein Twitter users called her "hypocritical" for demonstrating womanhood in her music.
FYI, world: Expressing sexuality — which, by the way, is never something to be ashamed of — does not pardon sexual harassment in any form. The two don't equate.
seeing a lot of "but look how you portray yourself in videos and in your music! you're so sexual!" .... please hold.. next tweet... i repeat— Ariana Grande (@ArianaGrande) December 28, 2016
expressing sexuality in art is not an invitation for disrespect !!! just like wearing a short skirt is not asking for assault.— Ariana Grande (@ArianaGrande) December 28, 2016
Women's choice. ? our bodies, our clothing, our music, our personalities..... sexy, flirty, fun.— Ariana Grande (@ArianaGrande) December 28, 2016
it is not. an open. invitation.
Mad respect to Grande for speaking out on something many women stay silent about. If we share our experiences and condemn them in the process, perhaps the misogynistic mindset and pervasive cultural sexism will, eventually, be run into the ground.
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