“Children See. Children Do. Make your influence positive.”
This thought-provoking public service video by the National Association for Prevention of Child Abuse and Neglect (NAPCAN)in Australia highlights the need for positive parenting. The video is making waves on YouTube with more than 500,000 views.
Children learn about society by observing the behaviors of the people around them, particularly their parents.This is where parental modeling or the act of shaping children’s behavior through leading by example comes in.
Parental modeling is essential to instill not only positive attitude and beliefs but also healthy habits in kids.Failure in demonstrating positive parental modeling can have problematic consequences.
For instance, research indicates that children of smokers are more likely to smoke than the children whose parents don’t smoke.Further, alcoholism also runs in families. A child of alcoholic parents is four times more likely to become alcoholic than other children.
The solution lies in positive parenting. As social psychologist Willard W. Hartup has concluded, "A child's effectiveness in dealing with the social world emerges largely from experience in close relationships." Verbally indicating what’s good and bad is not enough. Parents need to take the lead and practically demonstrate the desired social behavior they have of their children.