From a letter making the internet rounds, we get a peak inside a strange family drama involving an intolerant mother and a grandfather intolerant of her intolerance.
We tend to think of younger generations as more socially progressive than their elders, but one grandfather proved that that isn’t true. He wrote an angry letter, seemingly disowning his daughter in response to her having disowned her son after he came out to her as gay. I’m not up for saying that anyone should disown their own child, but after reading this letter, it’s clear that the grandfather’s heart is in the right place (and he does leave the door open for her to reach out to him).
Transcript for those who have trouble with the grandfather’s handwriting:
I’m disappointed in you as a daughter. You’re correct that we have a “shame in the family”, but mistaken about what it is.
Kicking Chad out of your home simply because he told you he was gay is the real “abomination” here.
A parent disowning her child is what goes “against nature”.
The only intelligent thing I heard you saying in all this was that “you didn’t raise your son to be gay”. Of course you didn’t. He was born this way and didn’t chase it any more than he being left-handed.
You however, have made a choice of being hurtful, narrow-minded and backward.
So, while we are in the business of disowning our children, I think I’ll take this moment to say goodbye to you.
I now have a fabulous (as the gays put it) grandson to raise, and I don’t have time for a heartless B-word of a daughter.
If you find your heart, give us a call
There is obviously a lot of internal family drama here that I’m not going to bother to comment on, but it’s worth noting that this man may be saving the life of his grandson. Hopefully mom will come around at some point and everyone can un-disown each other.