Bullying can have life-long effects, particularly on children, which is why a teacher decided to explain its dangers to her students in a way they (and hopefully most adults too) could be understand it better.
To get her point across, Rosie Dutton, a coach in the United Kingdom who teaches children dealing with anxiousness and stress about relaxation and mindfulness, took two red apples and dropped one of them repeatedly on the ground prior to class.
Once the students settled into the classroom, she showed them the two fruits that looked the same on surface.
“I picked up the apple I’d dropped on the floor and started to tell the children how I disliked this apple, that I thought it was disgusting, it was a horrible color and the stem was just too short,” she wrote on the Relax Kids Tamworth Facebook page.“I told them that because I didn’t like it, I didn’t want them to like it either, so they should call it names too.”
She said the kids looked at her as if she was insane, though relented by passing around the internally bruised fruit. They even said things like, “you're a smelly apple,” “I don't even know why you exist” and “you've probably got worms inside you.”
Then, Dutton passed around the other apple, asking the students to say kind words to its, like “you are a lovely apple,” “your skin is beautiful” and “what a beautiful color you are.”
She then held up the two fruits to show everyone that they looked exactly similar before slicing them both in half.
“I then cut the apples open,” the teacher continued. “The apple we'd been kind to was clear, fresh and juicy inside. The apple we'd said unkind words to was bruised and all mushy inside.”
She believes it was a valuable lesson that perfectly illustrated what happens when you say hurtful stuff to others.
“They really got it, what we saw inside that apple, the bruises, the mush and the broken bits is what is happening inside every one of us when someone mistreats us with their words or actions,” she added. “When people are bullied, especially children, they feel horrible inside and sometimes don't show or tell others how they are feeling.”
The social media post, which also encourages others to help children understand bullying, soon went viral with thousands of people sharing the effective explanation on the internet.
After all, it is never too late to understand the effects bullying can have on people. Perhaps this video would also be a source of guidance for adults along with kids.
Relax Kids is a school that specifically caters to anxious and stressed children.
“Relax Kids’ strategies mimic clinically proven anger management and mitigation treatments such as therapeutic exercise and yoga, breathing exercises, and mindfulness exercises,” reads their website. “These can be used as anger management tools, ways to help at moments of meltdown, or methods to make time-outs constructive rather than punitive.”