The Last Straw That Broke Huma Abedin’s Resolve To Stick With Weiner

The reaction to Huma Abedin leaving Anthony Weiner is closer to "about time" and "good riddance" than surprise or shock.

UPDATE: Former congressman Anthony Weiner is currently under investigation by New York City's Administration for Children's Services, New York Post reported Wednesday. 

A city government official informed the NY Post that a welfare officer visited Huma Abedin's and Weiner's Union Square apartment building on Tuesday.

The politician, however, denied claims that he has been visited or interviewed by a child welfare official. 

Anthony Weiner was a playboy congressman when he wooed Hillary Clinton’s most-trusted aide, 12 years his junior, to marry him.

What followed was a series of public humiliations as Weiner repeatedly, and shamelessly, embroiled himself in one sexting scandal after another. After blowing his second and even third chance for public redemption, another scandal emerged this week.

The former congressman and a member of the Democratic Party has been caught with his pants down before. He had to resign from Congress in June 2011 after the first in a series of sexting scandals was made public.

Many thought his wife, Huma Abedin, would leave him but she surprised everyone by forgiving him and sticking to his side.

But it’s not like her husband mended his ways. This scandal is in fact the fourth time in nearly five years that Weiner has found himself caught in such a situation.

The latest in the line of scandals proved to be the last straw, however. Nearly three weeks after a male college student catfished Anthony Weiner into flirting with him, Weiner got embroiled in yet another texting scandal — this time with his young son present in one of the lewd photos.


Weiner admitted that he and the woman "have been friends for some time," but they had never met. He added their conversations were “private” and “always appropriate."

In May 2011, Weiner was accused of sending sexually explicit photograph of himself via his Twitter account to a female follower. A month later he had to resign from Congress, citing “personal mistakes” as the reason.

“Our marriage, like many others, has had its up and its downs. It took a lot of work and a whole lot of therapy,” his wife said.

“It was not an easy choice in any way, but I made the choice that it was worth staying in this marriage….I didn’t know how it would work out, but I wanted to give it a try.”

Huma Abedin

So she decided to stand by her man just like her boss Hillary Clinton stood be hers all those years ago.

In 2013, after claiming he had undergone therapy, Weiner ran for mayor of New York City. However, while the people of the city were getting ready to give him a second chance, it was revealed that the disgraced ex-congressman had been sexting with various women, using Internet handle “Carlos Danger.” He again admitted to sending the messages, saying it was after he resigned from Congress. Yet his wife stayed by his side.

Huma Abedin’s response: “I love him, I trust him, I believe in him.”

Apparently these words sparked yet another controversy, this time focusing more on Abedin and less on Weiner. Many criticized her for being so forgiving toward a man who actually used to send his nude pictures to other women for a really long time.

Not this time however. This was one time too many.

“After long and painful consideration and work on my marriage, I have made the decision to separate from my husband," Abedin said in a statement. "Anthony and I remain devoted to doing what is best for our son, who is the light of our life. During this difficult time, I ask for respect for our privacy."

So will this push Weiner on to the straight and narrow path or will he take it as a sign of freedom to carry on with his strange sexting obsession?

“Normally after someone gets caught, they figure out how to stay on the straight and narrow,” says Karen Kessler, a crisis management expert who has worked with politicians and business executives. “He needs to figure out what is wrong with him, and it needs to be 15 states away from New York.”

Sex addiction, compulsive personality, immaturity or some other sort of sexual disorder  it could be anything, even a compulsion to self-destruct, that keeps Weiner making the same mistake again and again.

But many do wonder what made a woman like Huma Abedin stick by his side for so long.

Was it because of her religion, Islam, that frowns upon divorce? Hardly.

Emotional attachment? Perhaps.

Abedin is a practical woman. She apparently told Barbara Morgan, Weiner’s communications director, who was very upset over the whole scandal in 2013, to shape up before leaving their home.

“Just a quick optics thing,” she told her. “I assume the photographers are still outside, so you will look happy? I’m saying this for you. I don’t want it to be, ‘The press secretary walked out very upset at 6:30.’”

Her friend Rory Tahari believes otherwise. "It would have been perfectly logical if she said, 'I'm out of here.' Any woman could have understood that," she said in 2013. "Huma has a very strong moral character, and she made a commitment for better or worse. She never wanted Jordan to say to her, 'Why didn't you do everything you could to help Dad?' "

Whatever the case may be, her husband finally made her give up by his inability to give up sexting.

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